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Here, I Wrestle After running the WrestleMen site for nine years now, I am all too familiar with seeing headless torsos and the word "discreet" in profiles. Producing the STRONGHOLD wrestling documentary has given me even greater insight into the reasons some men fear that others will not understand their love of wrestling. Whether it's from it being their first sexual turn-on as a child, or the stigma that some parents put on the sport being "fake" and only for the lowest of low people to enjoy, many men fear that their co-workers, family, and friends will think oddly of them if they reveal this deep dark secret. Some gay men have said it would be like a second "coming out" to reveal to others that they enjoy wrestling. Straight men are fearful that revealing they like to roll around with other guys must mean they are gay. But how justified are these fears? A lot of this fear stems from the labels we are told to put on ourselves. It's like someone walks up to you one day and says "It's time to pick. Are you gay, straight, bi, or transgendered? C'mon now, pick one!" It's just not that easy. Sexuality is ever-flowing and ever-changing, and there are no clear cut categories for people to fit in. Because wrestling "straddles" the line of gay and straight in many people's minds, that is where much of the fear arises. After all, two men really can't get much closer physically to each other than when they wrestle. Here are some things you can do to get over these fears: 1.
I wrestle (and that's all you need to know for now) 2.
Wear Wrestling T-shirts 3.
How to Respond Now, what about the question "What kind of wrestling?" I tell them submission wrestling, and then describe the different types of wrestling, sorta educate them. If they want to talk about pro wrestling on TV, run with it. It brings them into their comfort zone, even if that's not your interest. I was once stopped by an airport security guard who after waving me through the metal detector, and after seeing my Okie Rumble wrestling shirt, said "Wrestling is really an underappreciated sport." You see, men are dying to talk about it. Trust me, if they bring it up, they are interested. 4.
Slip it into the Conversation At a restaurant, if your waiter looks like he has a wrestling build, just ask "Did you wrestle in school. You have a good build for it." This may take a couple of glasses of wine or beer to get the courage to do it, but it has never failed to get a conversation going about it. And remember they have to be nice to you and respond, you're the customer and the customer is always right. Go to a video store and ask a worker you'd like to wrestle if he could show you where the wrestling DVDs are. Even if nothing becomes of it, the goal is to lose the fear of bringing up the topic of wrestling in a conversation. I told a guy at a computer store once that I needed a bigger hard drive to store video for a wrestling documentary I was making. Instantly he told me about how his eight brothers would wrestle all the time and one of them now coaches wrestling. He followed me around the store and asked "If you need anymore help, just come find me." Ahh, we bonded. In
Conclusion What it all comes down to is that wrestling provides a basic need for men to have physical contact with each other. It's natural, and from what I've learned, most guys everywhere think about it or have thought about it at some time in their lives. What will be surprising to you is that once you understand this and have tried some of the things above, you will not feel the need to be as discreet anymore. And hopefully, no more headless pictures. Related
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